As a caregiver, it is important to be as motivational as possible with your care recipient. With all the changes they might be going through, it may be tough for them to stay physically and mentally strong-minded by themselves. Considering more often than not, caregivers are the only sort of interaction they comes across besides their healthcare providers, your role is crucial. Making sure their social and living environment is comfortable is also an important factor. Remaining in control of your words and tone can determine how close of a relationship you can maintain with them. Coming up with different approaches and strategies can help you offer better support.
Here are some tips you could try out:
- Agree never Argue – It is okay to disagree from time to time. In fact, as you and your loved one get older and spend more time together, it will happen more frequently. Having a clear and stern tone may not seem like it would be bothersome, but keep in mind your loved one hears it day in and day out. Possibly try using different tones and approaches until you come to a happy medium.
- Ask never Command – When telling your loved one to do something, it is important to begin with an easy approach. Try not to come off to aggressive. Lead in conversations with questions rather than statements that require a quick response and action. Tip: turn your statements into a question, this will come across more inviting.
- Reinforce never Force – Your loved one is bound to forget things you’ve said, things they needed to do, or things they needed to get. It’s going to happen, regularly. When you notice something has not been done, reiterate it to your loved one, never force them to do something right then and there. Try not to be bossy even though you may become short tempered from time to time.
- Reassure never Lecture – No one likes the feeling of being lectured, especially as an adult. When you are communicating with your loved one always be aware of your tone and the message you are delivering. While you may not think you are coming across strong, your loved one’s acceptance can be different than yours.
- Repeat never say “I told you” – Often times we forget that as we age, so do our ears. Your loved one might not intentionally ignore things you say or forget to do things you ask, they could have simply not of heard you. When talking or trying to get a point across be sure your words are interpreted correctly and are fully understood, to eliminate confusion or frustration down the road.
- Distract never Shame – Allow your loved one to say when enough is enough. As we get older, the tasks we can complete along with the desire to do them can decrease. When your loved one says they have had enough or feel “tired” allow them to be. Switch the energy or attention to something else, something distracting, never shame them for not wanting to do something.